Two weeks into the New Year, how are those resolutions going? Today is the day that most people will have given up on the promises they made to change. But don't be disheartened if this was you. It's just a hiccup, you just haven't found the right way to go forward yet!
Last week we looked at what we wanted to change. By now, you should have an idea of what changes you would like to make and the reasons for making them. If you went away and made a list, you may have edited it several times, and maybe you are still unsure about what you want to change, but that's okay, things will become clearer as we go on.
Changing anything is a process, or a journey, you start with A and end with B. It's important to know where the destination is, then you can set a clear course for it. Let's look at a way of identifying where we want to be.
Going back to the quitting smoking example, your starting point is 'I smoke x amount of cigarettes a day, costing x amount of money a week'. Think about this statement and think about what you would like instead. Your destination may be 'I do not smoke and I am saving x amount of money towards a holiday each week'.
So what about career change, or healthy diet, or decorating the house, or even, a better relationship? Look at each of your changes in turn and ask yourself, 'Where am I now?' and 'What do I want instead?' For each one, imagine what it will be like when you achieve it. Imagine what you are feeling, what you are seeing, tasting, smelling. Then think about that change again, and write down what you are going to achieve, in a positive way.
'This time next year I will be an ex-smoker, proudly sitting on the beach in Hawaii, feeling the warm sun on my face, the scent of sea air on the breeze and sand between my toes.'
Do this for each of your changes, identify what your starting statement is, and what your destination statement is. Write down each destination statement as though you are there doing it. These are your goals. Revisit them over the coming week, rewrite them and tweak them as you imagine that future point.
In next week's blog , we will be looking at how these goals fit with you as a person, and what's important about each one.